Powerful moment, defining when I regained control: I realized that I'd allowed the break-up to diminish the joy in my life. The way I get lost in the negative thoughts and emotions that result from a break-up initiated entirely by one person, I was acting as if that person was the only source of joy in my life. When I realized that, I took the reigns...made the decision to take the reigns of my own joy and vow to remain the controller and shaper of that joy. This is not a thumbing of my nose at my ex-significant other... but just a trust and belief in my own light and love.